I have never been called dainty, tiny or petite a day in my life. My loving family will tell you I was a stout child or a big girl. While I despise big as an adjective, stout is certainly not much better and don't grab my limbs and exclaim that I am just solidly built. No one really wants to hear that, EVER!! While I will never call you on your rudeness for saying or doing that, you will likely say things about me when I politely smile, say nothing, and walk away from you. You don't get to fat shame me in love. I know what I both look like and how much I weigh. I don't need you to remind me. That is what I have mirrors and a scale for. :)
I was a month overdue in 197x and weighed in at a robust 9.7lbs. I was not tiny. When you're parental unit (I still love you Dad) exclaims to the wife and the nurses that, "she beat the boy" you live in family lore as some monstrosity of "ginormousness." My nephew and niece beat me by at least a pound each and yet my birth is the shocking one even though we are not far apart in age. *shrug* why pick a fight, right? I will never be dainty or tiny.
I didn't start tiny, and I have not magically gone all dainty and petite in the intervening years. If anything I feel like one of Sheldon's (BBT) 'beefy gals' which is code for Amazon. I always wanted to be dainty and petite. It is much preferable to big and Amazon like in the adjective department.
Even at my normal weight, I am just heavier than most women I guess. Meaning at even about 145lbs, I will still be the person you don't want to cart around for more than a few steps. That said, I can probably knock a person out with a right cross if I could connect because my size brings more strength. Strong vs. dainty and petite. Strength wins in this case though I'd still like to be a bit daintier.
At 5'9+ I tower over many women, and a lot of men are my height. This state just does not grow them tall like the Midwest. No offense Texas, I still love you. When I wear heals, I am 6ft+. I always joke a bit that if I tripped and fell, I would likely crush the dainty folk walking near me. There are only a couple people that I work with that I do not dwarf by multiple inches even without heals. With heals, I try not to walk next to the shorter folk. It makes that Amazonian feeling worse and I don't want to squish someone if I took a wrong step.
Sometimes, I wonder if I always felt so ginormous next to people when I was my normal weight or if I always felt so huge because everyone has told me that I was 'big' and stout.
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